I’ve been known to say whatever pops into my head. And it usually gets me in BIG trouble. 🙂
I am not a fan of the passive-aggressive/candy-coated approach to solving solutions. I’m persuaded more and more that it is not the right way to deal with hard situations. But I am also convinced that we are to handle situations with the same grace God has afforded us.
That is often easier said than done.
Recently, a situation has occurred that caused my heart to hurt and my blood to boil. I’ve struggled with finding the right balance of speaking my mind and still being kind. My hubby has been sweet enough to listen to me vent. But as I write this post, I am reminded of this verse:
The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.
That is a hard pill to swallow. What we say, then, comes from the depths of our heart. So how can we – how can I – speak the truth, yet speak it in love? How can we respond to the things that are bothering us without hurting those around us?
Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift.
Ouch! How are we supposed to live that out? What about when folks say and do things that hurt us? When they do and say things that make us mad? When they are as inconsiderate as a bull in a china shop?
Only Jesus knows how we should handle each situation. Only HE knows the perfect solution to each imperfect problem. Only HE can give the right answers. When faced with similar situations, he walked in Godly wisdom, built relationships and applied generous amounts of love!
My words are not always said in the perfect manner. And my words aren’t always received as I hope they will be. But I have to be responsible for MY end of the situation…even when it’s hard.
In other words, I need to do a better job of seeking wisdom from the Perfect Source of wisdom (ya know, Jesus!) before I open my mouth. I need to pray…then listen to His answers…before I send emails. I have to pray for and speak in calm tones – even when I want to scream to the highest mountains.
And in the midst of all this, have to answer for my own decisions – even when they cause waves among the ranks.
Life is hard. But God is still good.
How about you? Have do you tell the truth – the whole truth – in situations even when you know it’s not going to bring about the perfect solution? Or do you usually keep the peace by NOT saying anything at all and stuff it all down, WAY down, inside? Do you keep peace at all costs?
A friend once told me that being a peacemaker doesn’t mean you don’t speak truth – but it does mean you speak it in love…and thus being a vessel of God’s peace.
Ephesians 4:15 (New International Version – UK)
15 Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ.
I’m going to keep this in mind this week as the situation I’m dealing with is getting worked out. I’m going to focus on the positive and try to speak only that which the Lord directs me to say. After all, I really don’t have to say everything I’m thinking. And obviously, I’ve got a LOT more growing to do…